If you play matches, then you would know that you don’t really play to win. Yes, you got that right. Timothy Gallwey, a Harvard educationist and a famous tennis coach said, ‘We don’t really play to win’.
I am a mediocre Badminton player and a slightly better Table Tennis player – if I only wanted to win I could play against a 6-year old and win a game. Would that be satisfying? Nope, because that would not give me the satisfaction of rising to the best of my ability, overcoming a challenge and feeling significant. The win would lack the thrill of defeating a formidable opponent. I wouldn’t have the contentment of knowing that I have improved my skills, or that I have achieved something that was not easily within my grasp.
I realize that when I win, I feel victorious only when that win is about overcoming an internal challenge.
Now reflect on what is the challenge you are trying to win against in your life? Is it external or internal? If the external challenge went away, would you still feel victorious? What need are you really trying to fulfill?
Till you decipher that, the wins in life are likely to feel empty and give only short-lived satisfaction and sometimes none at all.
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